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The State of Me and Some Ex-Files
Mar. 15th, 2016 11:53 amI've meant to post a hundred times, and I'm just so busy and overwhelmed that I haven't done it yet. (until now, of course!)
I leave for Toronto Comic Con Thursday morning and I've been cutting my little fingers to the bone (occasionally literally) to have enough pieces to sell. Nothing will suck the joy out of a hobby faster than mass production for cash! :D I'm pretty nervous and a bit excited about it. It will also just be very long and exhausting, regardless of how it all turns out.
I will get to meet my new 'sister' for the first time though, as she's agreed to come out and help me at the booth, so that will be nice.
Big news: WE SOLD OUR HOUSE! Oh man, I won't even get into the boring, bullshit details about the asshole-jerkface who bought it, but it eventually all settled and it sold. Possession date is June 30 (which we fought mightily for, so the kids could finish school here) and now I need to somehow buy a house on the other side of the country, despite knowing very little about the province, the neighbourhoods, the jobs available and the state of the schools there. *WIBBLE* All I know is that it is beautiful, and not nearly as cold as this winter hell hole I live in now. Hubby and I head out to BC at the beginning of April for a whirlwind two day house hunt.
My ex! He messaged me last week with an offer to have lunch. He's messaged me a couple of times before, and I wasn't really sure how I felt about seeing him, so I just ignored him. (so mature!) Anyhoo, we had just sold our house and won't be here forever, so I thought, why not?
Turns out, it was really great to see him again. Not in a get-back-together way, just in a catch-up-with-an-old-friend way. The worst part of divorce is that you also lose your in-laws, and I really, really liked his big family. It was nice to hear what they're all up to now. Another thing that was really nice and very unexpected was a very heart-felt apology from him. For all of the ways he played into the end of our marriage. Now, don't get me wrong, it was very much a two way street, but I was willing to work on things and make it work, where he seemed to be either unwilling or unable (or both.)
Anyway, it really took me by surprise, and it was incredibly gratifying to hear! Especially from him, as neither of us were particularly adept at 'owning' our faults or responsibilities for our failings. It's been almost 25 years since we split up, but I left our lunch date feeling really good. We both found spouses better suited to ourselves, we both had kids and we both seem happy with our lot in life. And that's really good. He's not a bad person (just a bad husband for me) and clearly, he's grown up a lot. And so have I, of course.
I had always kind of thought that I wanted him to be happy, just not as happy as ME. ;) And now I realize how immature that is. It's not like there is a limited amount of love and joy in the world. I wish him all the love he can get. Wow. That's kind of freeing! Now if I can only work those feelings for my father! :D
Anyhoo, what are you guys up to? I have lots of new paper cuts that I've photographed, but I haven't had time to edit and post them. I am really looking forward to having this comic con be over, so I can concentrate on other things.
I leave for Toronto Comic Con Thursday morning and I've been cutting my little fingers to the bone (occasionally literally) to have enough pieces to sell. Nothing will suck the joy out of a hobby faster than mass production for cash! :D I'm pretty nervous and a bit excited about it. It will also just be very long and exhausting, regardless of how it all turns out.
I will get to meet my new 'sister' for the first time though, as she's agreed to come out and help me at the booth, so that will be nice.
Big news: WE SOLD OUR HOUSE! Oh man, I won't even get into the boring, bullshit details about the asshole-jerkface who bought it, but it eventually all settled and it sold. Possession date is June 30 (which we fought mightily for, so the kids could finish school here) and now I need to somehow buy a house on the other side of the country, despite knowing very little about the province, the neighbourhoods, the jobs available and the state of the schools there. *WIBBLE* All I know is that it is beautiful, and not nearly as cold as this winter hell hole I live in now. Hubby and I head out to BC at the beginning of April for a whirlwind two day house hunt.
My ex! He messaged me last week with an offer to have lunch. He's messaged me a couple of times before, and I wasn't really sure how I felt about seeing him, so I just ignored him. (so mature!) Anyhoo, we had just sold our house and won't be here forever, so I thought, why not?
Turns out, it was really great to see him again. Not in a get-back-together way, just in a catch-up-with-an-old-friend way. The worst part of divorce is that you also lose your in-laws, and I really, really liked his big family. It was nice to hear what they're all up to now. Another thing that was really nice and very unexpected was a very heart-felt apology from him. For all of the ways he played into the end of our marriage. Now, don't get me wrong, it was very much a two way street, but I was willing to work on things and make it work, where he seemed to be either unwilling or unable (or both.)
Anyway, it really took me by surprise, and it was incredibly gratifying to hear! Especially from him, as neither of us were particularly adept at 'owning' our faults or responsibilities for our failings. It's been almost 25 years since we split up, but I left our lunch date feeling really good. We both found spouses better suited to ourselves, we both had kids and we both seem happy with our lot in life. And that's really good. He's not a bad person (just a bad husband for me) and clearly, he's grown up a lot. And so have I, of course.
I had always kind of thought that I wanted him to be happy, just not as happy as ME. ;) And now I realize how immature that is. It's not like there is a limited amount of love and joy in the world. I wish him all the love he can get. Wow. That's kind of freeing! Now if I can only work those feelings for my father! :D
Anyhoo, what are you guys up to? I have lots of new paper cuts that I've photographed, but I haven't had time to edit and post them. I am really looking forward to having this comic con be over, so I can concentrate on other things.
