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tripperfunsterFuck the hell off you fucking prick.
Waking me up (yes, hello time zones not the same?) to tell me what a horrible job I'm doing as a mother is not helpful.
Trying to convince me that my son's emotional problems stem from HAVING LONG HAIR WTF? is not likely, nor probable.
Whining about WHAT A HARDSHIP IT WAS to have my son and husband as guests for ONE NIGHT does not make me feel sorry for you.
I am willing to admit that he has problems. We have consulted his doctor, and we have an appointment with a child behavioural therapist. If SHE thinks all of his problems stem from having long hair, then yes, we will cut it.
BTW: Calling him your granddaughter? Probably not helpful either. And completely denying it? Also not helpful.
Also BTW: The irony of YOU giving ME parenting advice? Totally not lost on me. Rest assured, despite all of the mistakes I make as a parent, being deliberately mean to my children will not be one of them.
Also also BTW: The fact that I didn't mention your drunk, negative bitch of a girlfriend during our conversation proves without a doubt that I am a much better person than you. Because HOMFG I wanted to throw that in your face SO BADLY! I could literally TASTE how good it would feel to shove that down your throat.
I have never hung up on you before today, but I will not hesitate to do it again.
No love whatsoever,
Me.
Waking me up (yes, hello time zones not the same?) to tell me what a horrible job I'm doing as a mother is not helpful.
Trying to convince me that my son's emotional problems stem from HAVING LONG HAIR WTF? is not likely, nor probable.
Whining about WHAT A HARDSHIP IT WAS to have my son and husband as guests for ONE NIGHT does not make me feel sorry for you.
I am willing to admit that he has problems. We have consulted his doctor, and we have an appointment with a child behavioural therapist. If SHE thinks all of his problems stem from having long hair, then yes, we will cut it.
BTW: Calling him your granddaughter? Probably not helpful either. And completely denying it? Also not helpful.
Also BTW: The irony of YOU giving ME parenting advice? Totally not lost on me. Rest assured, despite all of the mistakes I make as a parent, being deliberately mean to my children will not be one of them.
Also also BTW: The fact that I didn't mention your drunk, negative bitch of a girlfriend during our conversation proves without a doubt that I am a much better person than you. Because HOMFG I wanted to throw that in your face SO BADLY! I could literally TASTE how good it would feel to shove that down your throat.
I have never hung up on you before today, but I will not hesitate to do it again.
No love whatsoever,
Me.
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Date: 2010-09-07 04:23 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-07 07:08 pm (UTC)thanks.
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Date: 2010-09-07 04:47 pm (UTC)Family members always know the worst buttons to push, don't they?
I'm so sorry that happened to you today (or any day, really).
♥
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Date: 2010-09-07 07:09 pm (UTC)My father is a master button pusher, for sure. I managed to hold back for quite a while, but yeah ... he got to me for sure.
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Date: 2010-09-07 04:53 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-07 07:12 pm (UTC)Thanks for saying so, but honestly, I could care less how 'in' it is or isn't. They (the boys) choose to have their hair long. I honestly don't care either way.
Obviously, my parents feel very differently. Do I even have to mention that I dyed my hair bright orange and shaved a checkerboard into it when I was a teenager?
Me? Rebel? :D
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Date: 2010-09-07 05:25 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-07 07:13 pm (UTC)Today calls for cat, then dogs, then pig. And the kids too, of course!
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Date: 2010-09-07 05:37 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-07 07:18 pm (UTC)I gotta say, I'm pretty damn angry myself right now.
Hubby and Harry visited my parents (divorced, so two different nights) last week. Harry doesn't like change. Like ... eating strange food, sleeping in a strange bed, etc, so he was really out of sorts and acting bratty.
My dad, in all his helpfulness decided to call me and tell me exactly how I'm failing as a mother. My major problems being
forcingletting him keep his hair long, and giving in to all of his demands.The fact that I wasn't there seems to be lost on my father.
He's a git.
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Date: 2010-09-07 05:45 pm (UTC)The fact that you bring up your children with liberty and respect, is a point that your education is better than "other" that bring their prejudices to their children.
*Loves*
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Date: 2010-09-07 07:20 pm (UTC)Thank you hon! I agree with you. I certainly make mistakes, but i love my children more than my parents ever loved me. (or at least i show it.)
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Date: 2010-09-07 06:09 pm (UTC)Go you!!!!
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Date: 2010-09-07 07:22 pm (UTC)And sadly, Jesus Christ himself could come down and argue for my side, and my father would still not be won over.
His loss.
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Date: 2010-09-07 06:09 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-07 07:23 pm (UTC)Yeah, I thank god every day that I'm adopted. For realz.
I get along with my MIL better than my own family. That must say something about them, eh?
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Date: 2010-09-07 06:37 pm (UTC)Do you really have to have anything to do with these people?? Your parents sound like real pieces of work.
Ugh, so, so sorry you have to deal with this crap, especially first thing in the morning. X(
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Date: 2010-09-07 07:26 pm (UTC)Oh GOD NO! It is obviously all my fault. For you know ... being a shitty mother and all round person. *sigh*
You still haven't sent me your address hon!
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Date: 2010-09-07 07:03 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-07 07:29 pm (UTC)I know he's not worth the time and effort, but it bugs the hell out of me anyway. >:(
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Date: 2010-09-07 07:25 pm (UTC)OMGWTF??
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Date: 2010-09-07 07:34 pm (UTC)THEN HE HAS THE FUCKING ODACITY TO DENY, DENY, DENY.
"I wouldn't say something like that, I'm not that kind of person." WTH? A giant prick? Oh yes you are!
Quincey was laying beside me, and could hear what my dad was saying on the phone. I asked him "Does Grandpa ever call you a girl?" and Quincey (who is 7) said "yes!"
So my dad says; :"Are you going to believe HIM over ME?"
Uh ... ahahahahahahahaha YES I CERTAINLY AM!
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Date: 2010-09-07 08:09 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-10 02:12 am (UTC)Dude, THIS WAS MY LAST DAY TO SLEEP IN BEFORE SCHOOL STARTED.
I mean, I'm up til way past midnight every night, but I'm not so much of a douche-bag that I assume everyone else in the world keeps my hours.
WHY DOESN'T HE GET THAT? Oh, 'cause he's a dick. I remember now.
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Date: 2010-09-07 08:11 pm (UTC)Sorry you, it all sounds so shitty. It´s beyond me why people would chose this instead of a loving relationship with children and grandchildren. Although, I suppose it isn´t a choice, but more like a lack in capability.
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Date: 2010-09-10 02:14 am (UTC)And yes, i would gladly take you on as my dad! :D
You have already been nicer to me in my life than he has.
I don't suppose you want to put my kids through college, would you? *g*
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Date: 2010-09-07 08:57 pm (UTC)2. You are an awesome person and your posts here show how much of a caring, thoughtful mom you are.
3. granddaughter??!? Can I please go smack some sense into him?
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Date: 2010-09-10 02:16 am (UTC)I'll send you his address. *g*
And thank you for the
offerkind words. They really do mean a lot to me. Especially from another mom who's having some difficult times of her own. *hugs*no subject
Date: 2010-09-07 09:17 pm (UTC)My brother has had long hair as far as I could remember. Haven't seen it cause him behavioral problems, lol.
*Hugs*
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Date: 2010-09-10 02:19 am (UTC)And yeah, he also said that Harry WANTS to cut his hair short, but I won't let him. WTF?
Where does he get this shit?
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Date: 2010-09-07 10:08 pm (UTC)*hugs*
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Date: 2010-09-16 05:20 am (UTC)Yeah, he is a very selfish man. Always has been. The only WTF here is that it keeps catching me off guard.
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Date: 2010-09-07 10:57 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-10 02:20 am (UTC)And like you said, I KNOW all of my faults, thank you very much. I don't need some asshole underlining them all.
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Date: 2010-09-07 11:10 pm (UTC)Slap my wrist if you think me overFreudian but this sounds like a clear case of "Here Is A Golden Excuse to Occult What A Totally Dysfunctional Parent I have been/am/might well be".
You've never sounded like a bad mom to me ever since I began reading your posts. Quite the contrary.
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Date: 2010-09-10 02:21 am (UTC)I mean, if he had been a great parent, I might take his advice, but he was a jerk-wad when I lived at home, so why should I expect any different now?
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Date: 2010-09-08 12:20 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-10 02:22 am (UTC)I don't know how good my boundaries are ... but at least I try!
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Date: 2010-09-08 01:30 am (UTC)wow. your dad is an ass.
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Date: 2010-09-10 02:23 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-08 04:05 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-10 02:24 am (UTC):( ur dad.
Date: 2010-09-08 05:48 am (UTC)It's amazing how compassionate and generous and caring you are about your kids and animals and friends and family, and yet your parental units seem to be not so much. I am in awe of your awesomeness.
*squishes you & your adorable babies* ♥
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Date: 2010-09-10 02:25 am (UTC)As for dad ... yeah.
Two words:
I'm adopted.
No really. And thankful for it!
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Date: 2010-09-08 11:05 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-10 02:26 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-08 06:47 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-10 02:29 am (UTC)I don't think I would regret it at all, except for the inheritance. (which is probably not going to happen anyway.) It would seem that he and my mother (divorced) were having words about him not leaving his kids anything, and giving it all to his skanky drunk girlfriend. (the one he left my mother for ...)
I ... I have nothing. I mean, leave ME nothing, I really don't care, but YOUR GRANDCHILDREN?
Dood, really?
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Date: 2010-09-09 12:06 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-10 02:30 am (UTC)