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tripperfunsterFirst off: HALLOWEEN COSTUMES ARE FINISHED! *dances* I BEGGED Quincey to be megamind this year, but no, he wanted to be Fireball Mario. For those who aren't into video games, Fireball Mario is basically regular Mario (Bros) except he wears RED overalls with a white shirt and hat. This of course means that this costume must be MADE and not purchased. Generally i like making costumes, but if it's something UNINSPIRED like this, I'd prefer to spend the $30 and save myself the horrors of sewing. I even made the hat, which was it's own brand of fresh hell.
Other son has 'issues' about halloween and dressing up, but also has issues about "OMG want candy", so he has worn the same ghost costume that I'd made him five years ago. needless to say, it's too small now. I asked him what he wanted to be this year, and guess what? A GHOST! But this time he wanted to be a BLACK ghost. :D Oookay! So, sort of dementor-ish ghost.
Stupid customers at work were SO stupid this week! I honestly don't even have the energy to type about the massive stupidity, but suffice to say, that yes, you DO have to remove the plastic wrap from your filter inserts before you put them in your aquarium. Sort of like, you need to remove the wrapper from your chocolate bar before you eat it. duh!
My newest bead creation IS LOOKING SO EFFIN' COOL! I went with a more 'realistic' colour scheme, which was kind of risky, because caucasian skin tone beads are few and far between. (hence my earlier blue schemes) This one is Kirk/spock.
Speaking of Kirk, William Shatner was at Central Canada comicon this past weekend. He was booked for Saturday only, and I thought .. hey he's here in my city, this may well be my first/last chance to ever see him, I should do it! So I begged staff to work for me on Saturday, shuffled the kids' hockey games over to hubby and set to go see Captain Kirk. Except, when I checked the schedule the night before, it announced that he had switched to Sunday instead. *raeg*
I decided to go on Saturday regardless, because I'd never been to a comic con before. (just hp cons) Harrison (my 9yo son) wanted to go with me. He's into Pokemon and thought there might be some cool stuff for him to buy/see. So we get there, and he gets all weird. Well, weirder than usual. He has a bad habit of complaining when he doesn't like something. Everyone does it, of course, but he just ... can't stop. He's improving, but it's OMG SO GODDAMNED ANNOYING. Sort of like kids on a long car drive that say "arewethereyet? arewethereyet? arewethereyet?" the whole way. He starts in with "I don't like it here. I don't want to be here. Let's go home."
(we are just in line to buy our entrance tickets at this point). I say, Hey, just give it a try. You don't know what to expect, and neither do I, so lets get our tickets and see what it's like."
Two minutes later. "I don't want to be here."
So I left. He got all, "hey! Wait! I don't KNOW if I want to go or not!" But I was done. I seriously was NOT about to pay money to go somewhere where he bitched and moaned the whole time. Oh man, I was pissed. I didn't yell or scream, of course, but I got very quiet for a long time. I was so ripped off I could have cried.
I think I was so upset because .. it was like a con. Well, it WAS a con, but it had that sort of HP con excitement, even though I had no friends going there, nobody was waiting for me, or KNEW me, but it FELT like there would be. :D People were in costumes and joking around in line with each other, and it really made me feel ... lonely. It's like I suffered from Con-Drop without even being at a con.
I don't have any fandom friends in RL. Hell, I don't really have any FRIENDS in RL. I have lots of acquaintances. People I say hello to. A group of us might go for lunch every few months, but like ... nobody who calls me just to see how I'm doing, or invites just me out to lunch, or over for coffee or anything. *sigh*
And it's sort of compounded now because I end up with a bunch of other parents at my son's hockey practice, but there's nobody there that I click with either. And I"ve tried! Pretty much all of them have kid's my son's age, and I've invited them over, or out for coffee, etc etc, and yeah ... nothing. We might go out once, and *I* feel like we've connected, or had a pretty good time, but obviously THEY don't, since it seems to always be a one or two time deal, and then i get brushed off if I try again.
And it's not just me, Hubby has said the same thing about them too. My husband has a lot of childhood friends that he bumps into all over the city, but he also doesn't really have a 'buddy' that he hangs with either. The difference being, he doesn't seem to mind/care, whereas *I* am STARVING for social interactions.
Whaaa! Nobody loves me, everybody hates me, I'm going to go and eat some worms. and by worms I mean chocolate
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Date: 2011-10-31 02:06 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2011-10-31 04:46 am (UTC)And yes, I deal with enough bugs and worms and stuff at work every day. I have no desire to eat them. Ever.
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Date: 2011-10-31 02:08 am (UTC)I SO know what you mean about not having friends. It would be cool if all fandomers were in one big awesome city, and we could just hang out whenever we wanted, like a never-ending con. *sigh*
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Date: 2011-10-31 04:48 am (UTC)I know I'm not alone in this, and it really does help to hear it. And yes, a big fandom commune? We could grow our own vegetables, write our own stories and draw our own porn! The only 'outsider' thing we'd need is the internet! :D
I am very much looking forward to the next Lubricus! <3
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Date: 2011-10-31 02:10 am (UTC)I can't believe you do all these neat things with beads and charcoal and sewing costumes and writing. You are just a powerhouse of creativity and I think you might not mind how much I swear, also, and of course I wish I could hang out with you. But I fear IRL I'm too boring. I only ever want to talk about books and politics and sometimes baking (well, because no one will ever talk about sex anymore, hmph. It's like they're out of adolescence or something. Snobs.)
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Date: 2011-10-31 04:50 am (UTC)I don't like to talk politics, but i would happily talk about books and SEX!!!! and I don't know much about baking aside from how much I like to eat it! And we could swim together!
*sigh*
thanks hon. <3
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Date: 2011-10-31 02:10 am (UTC)We go out once or twice, I have a good time, and then never hear from them again. I try not to let it bother me, but it hurts and makes me feel like I'm an outsider. Well, like even more of an outside than I know I am. It sucks and I know exactly how you feel.
And if you're like me you keep on trying to connect.
Our husbands are the same as well, he has friends he's known since HS and sees occasionally but he's a hermit and couldn't care on way or the other while I'm lonely a lot of the time.
Thank goodness for the internet and fandom, otherwise I wouldn't talk to anyone at all.
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Date: 2011-10-31 04:54 am (UTC)It does sound like we have very similar social problems.
And honestly, I think I am a pretty good friend, when I have them. I listen, and empathize, and compromise, etc. I think I"m a pretty cool, fun, easy going person, but obviously, other people don't agree.
Thanks for making me see that I am not alone in this. har har get it??
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Date: 2011-10-31 02:20 am (UTC)Sorry your con didn't work out. If it makes you feel better, I've never been able to go to one before. That makes you cooler than me. :D
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Date: 2011-10-31 04:57 am (UTC)I'm lucky that my husband and I have very similar interests, but he's still not that bff girl I need.
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Date: 2011-10-31 06:18 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2011-10-31 01:46 pm (UTC)Where are you? I"m central canada and there is only one other fandomer that I know of here, and she's not into slash. And she's in like Scotland right now. :D
I do appreciate the offer hon, and may take you up on it. Fandom has been such a life saver for me. Well, not life saver, as I'm not that far gone. Sanity saver for sure!
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Date: 2011-10-31 02:01 pm (UTC)I will agree that fandom has been a life saver, for me in a literal sense. Someone I met through it really helped me through a very dark time once, the friendships I've made through it have been wonderful lifelines.
It's funny how something so silly really brings people together. At heart, I guess we're all just total perves! :D
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Date: 2011-10-31 02:21 am (UTC)I know what you mean about con excitment! And then..con blues when you can't go/have to leave. That really sucks. I'm sure Shatner will be around again, he seems to have a good con circulation, but regardless it's sad you couldn't go.
Maybe you can time your next big trip at the same time as a con somewhere!
Around here...I don't have fandom friends either. You're not alone in that regard, a lot of us meet each other online and then meet irl but still it's only a few times a year. So I get what you mean to a point, since I do have friends I can hang around with even if they don't give a shit about fandom.
All I can say about those people who don't take you up on an offer to hang...THEY'RE TOTALLY BORING 8D
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Date: 2011-10-31 04:59 am (UTC)*sits alone at computer* *sigh*
It's not like I've NEVER had friends. I"ve had lots, but I've moved, and other people have moved, and there's the inevitable 'friend break up' that takes place now and then.
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Date: 2011-10-31 02:34 am (UTC)All of my acquaintances don't invite me anywhere, and don't come when I invite them to places. I've come made peace with that, mostly. I keep myself busy with all of my projects, and talking to fandom people online.
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Date: 2011-10-31 05:00 am (UTC)Yes, you sound VERY busy! I would think though, with your job, it would be great to have some friends that you can dump on occasionally. You do fascinating work, but it seems like it can be very stressful too.
Thank god for fandom. That's for sure! <3
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Date: 2011-10-31 02:45 am (UTC)Some people make making rl connections look easy. I'm sorry we don't live closer. I could use a few more rl friends myself. *hugs*
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Date: 2011-10-31 05:03 am (UTC)Oh well, I'm over it. Sort of.
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Date: 2011-10-31 02:50 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2011-10-31 05:04 am (UTC)I just need to pack them all up and bring them home with me!
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Date: 2011-10-31 05:34 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2011-10-31 03:02 am (UTC)I don't have RL friends either, for pretty much the same reason. I used to, but I think I've lost my touch, or scared them away somehow. I wish we lived in the same town--wouldn't that be something? I think you should come to visit me in the spring, and we'll drive the two hours east and spend some time with Synn...have our own little con.
I saw this on DJ's FB, I think, and it made me burst into tears, because sometimes I forget the truth of this:
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Date: 2011-10-31 05:06 am (UTC)Yes, it's great that Synn will be moving closer to you! I'm jealous. We had a great time together at Lubricus, but it would have been EVEN GREATER IF YOU'D BEEN THERE!!! hint hint hint hint hint hint hint.
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Date: 2011-10-31 04:02 pm (UTC)But you could still come here!
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Date: 2011-10-31 04:15 pm (UTC)Hell, the cab from the airport was only $20!
You must come. I demand it.
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Date: 2011-10-31 04:24 pm (UTC)I'm not complaining, tripp, except that I'd like to see you. I sure as hell don't want someone coming along and starting a 'send Cyn to the con' comm or something like that. I've been to my share of cons. I'll miss them, but y'know, eating and bills first....little pesky stuff like meds and cat fud have to come first.
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Date: 2011-10-31 07:18 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2011-10-31 08:34 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2011-10-31 03:44 am (UTC)Comic cons are differnt. They are really mostly a large vendor room, much bigger than HP cons. You have all sorts of fandoms but mostly anime, comics, and games. Not so much HP.
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Date: 2011-10-31 05:09 am (UTC)I know it wouldn't have been anything like an HP con, but the whole vibe of it just sort of made me get that vibe.
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Date: 2011-10-31 05:27 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2011-10-31 01:50 pm (UTC)You could move to Canada, we have free healthcare! well, not FREE, but yanno, sort of free.
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Date: 2011-10-31 07:26 am (UTC)But that was a complete bummer about the con; my son used to do stuff like that too and I can totally relate. Now that he's in his thirties, his kids are doing it to him - and he copes much better than I ever did. There Ain't No Justice ...
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Date: 2011-10-31 01:52 pm (UTC)I talk to people all day at work, which I suppose helps me not become a total hermit, but I really crave a deeper connection. I realize I"m not gonna find that 'bff' like I had when I was ten, but yeah, moving past the polite small talk would be pretty frickin' exciting.
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Date: 2011-10-31 08:32 am (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2011-10-31 12:36 pm (UTC)Now that I think, my friends in RL are fangirls/fanboys! Most because I met in fandom and then in RL, but I have a friend, a man, who was my friend from teen ages and the I showed him this wonderful world ^^ I'm such a FANGIRL!!!
My husband have no friends, and he's so happy about.
But I love you dear!!! Though I'm so far, but no problem today with it, don't?
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Date: 2011-10-31 01:55 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2011-10-31 06:47 pm (UTC)I want to see this Kirk/Spock beaded creation. I'm a Trekkie from way back. Whoa ... you almost got a chance to meet the Captain himself‽ It's crazy that I'm envious about that (even though you didn't). ;¬) Lordy! I've never been to a comic con either. It would be hoot to go with you (I think we may have the same twisted sense of humor).
*superloudsigh* I don't have any fandom friends in RL either (so I'll continue to stalk you online). (≖◡≖) Wish we lived in the same province. I'd love to haunt the cons with you!
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Date: 2011-10-31 08:07 pm (UTC)Well, I *do* get out to Toronto every couple of years, so perhaps we could meet up one time? I'd really like that!
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Date: 2011-10-31 08:23 pm (UTC)