Day Ten Sex Question...

[tripperfunster]

What's your fav position? Or, for that matter, what's your fav thing to do sex-wise?



69 baby! Probably from reading too much fanfic, but I really, really, really enjoy oral. Giving and getting.

I was always sort of ambivelent about blow jobs in the past. I didn't mind giving them, and duh, most guys love them, but I didn't GET OFF on giving them until reading tons of smutty fanfic.



AND YOU????

Comments

[vividescent.livejournal.com]

None. :/ Vaginal ultrasounds are agonizingly painful for me. I think that pretty much sums it all up for me. Vaginal ultrasounds really aren't supposed to hurt like that, but it never fails to. Pretty sure it's something to do with the endometriosis or something. No boyfriends, no anything for me.

[amanuensis1.livejournal.com]

*hugs* It's frustrating when everything seems to be about the vaginal penetration in order to be sex, isn't it? You're among sympathetic (and empathetic) voices here, though. Can you enjoy other things, like clitoral stimulation? (You don't have to be drawn into dialogue if you don't want to. ^_^ )

[vividescent.livejournal.com]

*hugs back* Thanks. :) And to answer your question: not for some time now. When I was a teenager I used to enjoy that (pretty much masturbation as guys just weren't interested in me.) as much as is possible when your parents treat it like a *really bad thing*. It was some time before I finally convinced myself I shouldn't feel guilty.

At some point in my teenage yours the orgasms I got tended to lead to abdominal pain and even vaginal bleeding. This wasn't even anywhere near my period and it was pretty scary to me, but I didn't tell anyone. I was kind of... raised in ignorance. My parents didn't teach me about sex. My mom never talked to me about periods or cramping and she never took me to a gynocologist (I doubt this was intentionally neglectful as I know my mom never went to a gynocologist until after I had gone and my sister and I talked her into going to one herself. I'm not sure how much she knew about gynos, if anything).

In fact, I had no idea what a gynocologist WAS until I was in my late 20s and had a very violent ovarian cyst rupture that lead to a bunch of debilitating symptoms for several health issues I hadn't been aware of suddenly becoming regular - some of which was due to endometriosis. Since then I spent a lot of time struggling to get diagnosed and I finally got a laproscopy in early 2010 to remove the endometriosis I had. I had a pretty good year and now the endometriosis is back and I'm getting a complete hysterectomy early next month.

My sex drive has been pretty low since the ovarian cyst rupture and even some years before that, too.

[tripperfunster.livejournal.com]

My sister-in-law has pretty severe endometriosis. Not that my brother and I talk about sex a lot, but they have a pretty satisfying sex life, with little to no penetration.

How's that coming along, btw? Have you met with someone who is willing to help you? and by that I mean actually DO something about it?

[vividescent.livejournal.com]

Sadly, I have no one, husband or boyfriend-wise, and haven't really been in any condition to try to meet someone. I have to admit, I kind of gave up finding anyone.

It does always make me feel happy whenever I hear about an endometriosis sufferer who has a husband or boyfriend who stick by them and is willing to work together. It's just so sweet. :) My dad's friend's law partner's wife also had severe endo and he took care of the kids and was always very thoughtful to his wife's illness as far as I could tell. She got a hysterectomy and she's doing so much better now.

On the medical front, my gynocologist who did the laproscopy needed no convincing to give me a full hysterectomy! I was worried I'd have to argue for it because I'd heard of gynos refusing hysterectomies to women they deemed too young. I'm 30 and the hysterectomy will be early next month.

The problem is, it's only part of my health issues and they do all kind of twine together, making it impossible to tell what is caused by the endometriosis and what isn't. I'll likely find out what else needs to be addressed after my hysterectomy if some of the symptoms still persist like they did with the laproscopy I'd had.

[sumsumlovesyou.livejournal.com]

You know, I had a really rough time where I went through something similar. Everything hurt. I was at zero, no go! Right around the year before I got pregnant, oddly enough. However, since I've had my daughter, everything seems fixed. Not that that's a cure or an easy one by any means, haha, but it helped my situation. You should try talking to an OB. I think there are actually things they can do that can help!

[vividescent.livejournal.com]

Yeah, for some people having a baby does help, although it seems it doesn't work for everyone as I know a few women who have had several kids and still suffered from endometriosis. I'm really glad that it seems to have been fixed for you! :)

I have no boyfriend or husband, so I've turned to having a full hysterectomy to deal with the issue. It took me over a year to get that diagnosis, and then a bit longer to find a new gynocologist who would actually listen to me and give me the laproscopy I needed. I've changed to the gyno who listened to me and next month I'll be going in for my hysterectomy.

I'm certain it won't fix all my problems as the laproscopy made it obvious that some of my problems are not related to the endo, but once the endo is completely out of the way I can start getting diagnoses for the other issues and getting on with my life.

[sumsumlovesyou.livejournal.com]

That's great that you finally found someone to listen. I think so many women suffer in silence or give up after a time, and it's unfortunate. I'm not touting sex as the end all be all awesomeness by any means, but I'm sure there are other things we go through on average that you get pain from, and you should be able to find something to ease your pain, because it's unfair that any woman should suffer that. I hope that made sense... I hope the hystorectomy helps and I wish you a speedy recovery!

[vividescent.livejournal.com]

It makes sense to me. I totally agree! :) Thank you for your kind words. I really appreciate it.

[demicus.livejournal.com]

Your time will come, sweetie. I've fingers & toes crossed for you. ☘

[vividescent.livejournal.com]

Thanks, hon. :) *hugs*